Post by Thandie
This literally home-grown brand has been on the scene for EVAH. After working with sweet Will Smith on ‘The Pursuit of Happyness’, he and Jada sent me a basket of Carol’s Daughter products as a birthday gift. I still remember opening the box, and swooning at the release of rich, deep, sweet smells. Now, years later I’m reminded of Carol’s Daughter as Westworld’s (the HBO drama I’m currently filming) hair chief Joy Zapata sent me home with the Hair Milk plus a pot of the Marula Oil mask.
A combination of still nursing my 2 year old, and a lot of shooting, has left my hair in a sorry state. So, Carol’s Daughter (aka founder Lisa Price) has come to the rescue. And I’m loving it.
We’re proud to welcome Lisa to ThandieKay again (see our post on my favourite Carol’s Daughter hair products here), this time for our beauty Q+A!
I have two. One is the softness of my mother’s cheek. I always remember her skin being very soft. I remember when I was old enough to play in the medicine cabinet and I discovered her Oil of Olay Cleansing Lotion and her Pond’s Cold Cream. I assumed that these two items must have been the course of that softness.
My mother was such a minimalist when it came to beauty that the fact that she had two items for her face, made an impression on me, even as a child.
Even though I use my own Face Butter, I still keep a jar of Pond’s in my bathroom, just so that I can relive that feeling of Mommy’s face. Her cheek against mine.
She wore it for church, only on Sundays. I thought it was the most amazing thing I ever smelled ever and couldn’t understand why she didn’t wear it every single day.
My husband smiles at me. When he hugs me and nuzzles my neck and says, “ Hmmm, you smell so good. What is that?” That is something he said on our first date and even when he knows today, what it is, he still asks because he knows how much that resonated with me back then.
People that I find beautiful I feel that society may also find beautiful but I see beyond the physical aspects of their beauty and look at their confidence, their swagger and their authenticity.
Women – Lupita Nyong’o, Debbie Allen, Helen Mirren, Lauren Bacall, Beyoncé, Amandla Stenberg, Thandie Newton (not pandering to the editor here, this is true), Sophia Loren, Serena Williams, Michelle Obama. I could list more.
Men – Idris Elba, Cary Grant, Michael Ealy, Michael Fassbender, Gene Kelly, Paul Newman, Robert Redford, Prince, Rob Lowe, Eric Benet, and Don Cheadle.
My mom cleaned her face, most of the time with soap and occasionally with Oil of Olay, back when it was one product. A cleansing lotion that came in a glass bottle. She moisturized with Pond’s Cold Cream and my mother very rarely wore makeup. I remember her bottle of foundation being in the medicine cabinet forever. This was long before we had magazines telling us that our makeup spoiled. Mommy also had one blush, mascara, and a nude coral lipstick. That was it. She had freckles on her face and never covered them. It is safe for me to say that she probably wore makeup about 6 times a year.
When I began to make products and she got to “play” with textures and scents in Body and Hair Care, Mommy became less minimalist. She had her favorites – my Ocean line and also anything with Lavender or Eucalyptus. She suddenly found it acceptable to soak in Bath Salts and Bath Oils, wash with various gels and bar soaps and slather on lotions and Body Butters. She loved smelling good and loved how these things made her feel emotionally and how they made her skin and hair feel.
For me it can be both. More of a chore when I have back-to-back days of it and there are lashes and heavier applications because of television or camera work. But, when it’s for fun, for a party or to play with new colors or a new smokey eye, that is fun and I love it.
This isn’t something I witnessed as a child. Not saying it didn’t happen, I just didn’t see it. My parents also split when I was about 10/11. Daddy remained in my life and he and Mommy were great at not letting their personal differences interfere. In my adult years and after my mother’s passing, my dad spoke more about how beautiful my mother was as a person. Not just her physical appearance. He seemed to be more impressed with her patience, her capacity to love and her bravery. He said he never deserved her and it took him years to realize that.
More honesty and authenticity. More of a celebration of who women really are and not who society tells us we should be. The whole “aspirational” look is annoying. I also want to see more blurring of gender lines. I have a son who likes to wear makeup sometimes- in his way. He is male but he is made to feel less so because he wants to do that. My son looks at gender in a very fluid way. For him, there are no absolutes.
Honestly, I use very waterproof mascara, but I did take a Soul Cycle class, a double, about a week ago, and I had a full face on that day because I shot video and I didn’t’ have time to remove my face before class and it ran all down my face and was wiped pretty much clean off with my towel before the end of the first class. That felt good, though, to sweat it off versus cry it off.
The gift of fragrance, but not just sending someone a fragrance, but having a fragrance experience with them so that they learn about scent and the art of perfumery and how that translates for them. I attended a business conference for women about 7 years ago that included a private shopping session for us in Nordstrom’s. Our gift from Nordstrom was a deluxe sample of the scent of our choice and I helped several women choose- not based on designer or packaging, but their lifestyle and likes and dislikes. It was so much fun to watch them discover scent in such a personal way. The beauty advisors loved it too as it resulted in sales and not just samples.