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Mindful Beauty by Rutendo Wazara

“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.” Maya Angelou

Rutendo's MumMuch of what I know about beauty and self-love, I have learned from my mother.Rutendo

From always keeping red lipstick in my handbag and having a signature scent, to making regular manicure and facial appointments.

One of the most important lessons she has taught me, however, is that beauty can be personal therapy, that it’s about taking care of yourself inside and out.  I’m not talking about booking yourself a spa treatment or having a shopping trip every time you are upset – although I am guilty of doing both of those things-I mean taking the time to stop and meditate on what you’re going through, and ‘beauty’, although it’s usually considered surface, can be a pretty useful medium for that.

When I have to face a particularly difficult day, or if I am upset or overwhelmed (or both!), I stand in front of the mirror, and look at myself. I’m the kind of person that wears her heart on her sleeve, so more often than not, my face reflects the stress I’ve been feeling.

So firstly I start by washing my face with Neutrogena Deep Clean Facial Cleanser and cold water 500x496_landscape_2-1– cooling down the heat of the day’s frustrations and washing away all negative emotions. The cold wash feels great on my skin and I feel lighter than before.

Take a long time cleansing!

Then I massage a gentle cleanser into my skin, applying it in methodical circles – I use this time to walk through the day’s events in a logical fashion, to find solutions. I’m a scientist, so gentle cleansing is usually my “Data Analysis” time – in other words, I go through what my aims of the day were, whether I achieved those outcomes or whether I need to revise my steps for achieving my aims…

More often than not, when you’re under pressure you say or do things that you later regret or wish you had more time to do better.

Meditate while you moisturise..

The Body Shop Serum & Night CreamMeditating on your day allows you to develop a game plan for the next time you encounter a situation.

For me, moisturising is two parts – I apply The Body Shop’s Vitamin E Overnight Serum-In-Oil followed by Vitamin E Night Cream also by The Body Shop.

Yes we are keeping our skin healthy with the Vitamin E, but when my brain sees anything with the word “vitamin” on it my mind feels instantly healthier! While adding the night cream I remind myself to feel the peace that as I sleep, my skin benefits from being moisturised, my weariness will melt away and I’ll wake up refreshed and ready to take on another day anew.

The Ritual of Making UpRevlon-ColorStay-16-Hour-Eye-Shadow

Make-up is also a great medium for stress relief.  The idea is not to cake on as much make-up as possible until you feel better, but the hope is that the routine will calm you down and re-centre you. I start with a clean face – remember, wash away all the negativity first, start with a clean slate.

Follow it by moisturising, and adding a little primer, and then start to apply make-up, taking time to apply each layer. I usually spend the most time on my eyes – they are the windows to your soul and most often than not, they reveal the most emotion.

So apply the whole works – three-toned eye shadow, eyeliner, and mascara (maybe waterproof if it’s a particularly rough day!).

bobbi-brown-luxe-lip-color-pink-nude-0-13-ozThen a beautiful shade of lipstick so that you have no choice but to smile. And even if you still don’t feel better after you’ve applied my last layer of mascara, you look better; and that gives you the little boost of confidence your feelings need to catch up. It works every time!


Some women re-centre themselves by doing an intense one-on-one session with a punching bag, some a quiet yoga flow, some journal the day’s events and some put on “pump it up” playlist, the choices are endless – but what is important is taking time to be alone with your thoughts and feelings, so that you can recharge and re-set.

“The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship of your life.” – Diane Von Furstenburg

Beauty that radiates from the inside outwardly is very important, but it’s also important to find a physical coping mechanism that will boost your morale when you’re emotionally drained.

It’s a discipline that I think we can all benefit from learning, and once you start with your heart, your mind will process all that nurturing.

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Pretty Powerful Blush by Bobbi Brown

Femi and Pretty Powerful Cream Blusher

Femi and Pretty Powerful Cream Blusher

One of our favourite brands Bobbi Brown is partnering again with Smart Works, a non-profit that helps out-of-work women find employment by providing them with a set of interview clothes, styling advice, and interview training. Proceeds from the Pretty Powerful campaign will help maintain the two Smart Works centres in London, and help Smart Works to open more centres around the UK. That’s Pretty Powerful, and makes you Pretty with a purpose—100% of the £19 cost (less VAT) of your Limited Edition Pretty Powerful Pot Rouge will be donated to Smart Works* – the chosen charity for this year’s Pretty Powerful Campaign in the UK

This versatile Cream Blusher is great on practically all skintones and can be used on Lips as well as Cheeks!

It’s easy to use because of it’s blendable formula. Simply pat on until smooth like Femi (Kay’s Make-Up assistant).

Femi before Blusher

Femi before Blusher



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Femi Konte photographed by Robert Walker















Femi applying Blusher

Femi applying Blusher




















Pretty Powerful!

Pretty Powerful!

Naturally Liplined

Posted by Kay

Lipliner. Such a misunderstood and much-maligned product.

For many it brings up the image of the porn-influenced make-up style of the 90’s, lips heavily overdrawn in crude brown pencil, or the ‘heavy-natural‘ make-up look of 90’s R n B/Rap stars, born from the cosmetic DNA of Make-Up Artists like Kevyn Aucoin, who practically ‘rebuilt’ faces using contour and liner. 19feb58f28af466596e7a32798d1e71b

Then there’s the ‘edgy-femme’ of the Chola sub-culture where girls used black pencil around a frosted pink inner lip in sync with extreme brow pencil, to make one thing very clear- ‘I got attitude’.

Sub-cultural trends aside, a good, natural lipliner that’s close to your own lip colour is a product I think that every woman without completely perfect lips can benefit from. Who doesn’t have lips that are just a teeny bit wonky, or have an overly small or large top or bottom lip? Personally I like to ‘flesh out’ my top lip a little, and create definition where there isn’t on my bottom lip, I find it makes a huge difference plus as you get older (unlike our thighs) our lips lose their volume.

Lily Natural 800

Lily with no Lipliner or Lipbalm


Like I said, the key is to find one that is not pinker, or more brown that your natural lips but like your actual lips.

This is not as easy as it sounds as most brands seem to see lipliner as lipcolour, which unless you are using a strong red lipstick to wear on top of it, looks very obvious.

Then all you need is a little Nuxe or Eos Lip Balm !

Here are some of my favourites, modelled by one of our contributing photographers Lily Bertrand-Webb.

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Lining Lily’s Lips in Bobbi Brown’s Cocoa



















Lily with Lipliners 800

The Lipliner Arsenel!



Lily Reveal 800











Lipstick Queen Lip Liner in Nude

Bobbi Brown Lip Liner in Cocoa

Lord & Berry Lip Crayon 20100 Matte in Prelude

Diego Dalla Palma Lip Pencil in 75. Nude

Make-Up & snaps by Kay


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